I was a BRIDEZILLA!!!

Ian and I decided to get married quite suddenly. When he proposed I said "Yes... but not yet". "Let’s wait a couple of years..." I kept holding it off... for about a year or so. I know. Soo unromantic of me.

So when we finally decided that it was time, it all just happened soo fast. I was kinda conned into it actually. I was still buying time but I guess Ian didn't want to wait any longer or his mother did not want to wait any longer. Or whatever it is.

One fine day, my mom got a call from his mom they talked about our wedding or our engagement that time. I was there when it happened, and I was wondering why my mom kept giving me weird looks. After the call she said:

Mama: Why didn't you tell me you wanted to get married? Ian's mom just called me telling me about the news!

Me: Huh??? Oh.. That... But we didn't agree on a date or anything! That’s why I didn't tell you!

After that I called Ian to scold him. He said he asked me the day before or something like that and I said OK. It was probably one of those moments where I blanked out when he was talking and I just said yes to cover up for not paying attention.

Soo anyways, from that point onwards everything was on full swing. Ian's mom came over few weeks after and decided on an engagement date. The engagement date was... was... September 8, 2007. I kind of had to dig up my old emails to get the date. Yes, I forgot my engagement date :P moving on...

My theme was light blue. I made a mistake choosing my fave colour for the ENGAGEMENT and not THE WEDDING. Soo stupid. I liked my makeup and baju and hairdo for my engagement better than my wedding.

The engagement turned out to be a big deal. I think we had like 200 people? Haih, big family. If we invite this person, we have to invite the other person as well. Soo hectic I tell you. Mini pelamin la, hantaran la, makan la, crazy! And in just a few months! Heck, we didn't even want to have an engagement in the first place. But I'm glad we did, it was fun. Lotsa... photo opps!

After the hecticness of the engagement, we had around 6 months to plan a wedding. Yes, SIX months. No venue, no NOTHING. I took a month break some more because I was tired from the engagement planning, etc. So then finally I kelam kabut cari venue. Went to Kampung Pengantin and I fell in love with it immediately! The package is also very reasonable. Then I got VERY excited. IM GETTING MARRIED!! Yay! Then pilih kain and baju…. Soo much fun!

Fast forward, it was down to the last 3 months. I started to panic. After the baju and venue, I didn’t do anything. Lepak and soo relaxed. My mama was more nervous than I was. After much scolding from her, I finally moved my lazy butt and got down to work. Hired a wedding planner, and everything was a breeze then… NOT!

Turns out bunga telur soo expensive! Like the really nice ones will cost you around RM 10-15. Times 100 will come up to RM 1,500. And that’s just the bunga telur. Mati!! So I decided to make myself. Me. I’ve never been artsy. But I learned to make bunga telur and the results were not bad, thanks to the help of close friends and family. Thank you guys for helping.

The plan for the wedding was to have everything all in one day. Morning was Nikah. In the afternoon we had a reception for family, and another dinner reception for friends.

The reason why we broke it down to three parts is that we want to actually meet these people. I can’t meet all of 1500 people in one go. Even so, I still x sempat meet up with everyone. Wedding date, March 9, 2008. This one I remembered!

Then the pelamin and makeup, took package from one person. The theme was white for night and gold for day. F&B, overall deco by Kampung Pengantin. Hantaran, made ourselves. Wedding cake… sponsored by Kak Elain… Thank you! Wedding favours, cupcakes which in the end because of mass production didn’t look like the sample I agreed on. Some more they didn’t meet the dateline! How to not panic the day before the wedding?!?!!

Seems like everything boiled down to the day before the wedding. What’s worse is that I’ve been having trouble sleeping for the past 3 days. I couldn’t sleep at all. Kept thinking about things that still need to be done. I couldn’t let go. Even tho my mom told me to rest and not worry. I couldn’t! I was bridezilla! I was angry at everyone. Raised my voice at family members, Ian… and fussed about everything. Ribbon senget, hantaran not standardised, flower girls belum sampai KL, how Ian is not supportive and is just letting go... I fussed about EVERYTHING!

Then, the day of the wedding came. I just slept for about 3 hours. Have to wake up early for hair & makeup. Nikah was at 10am. Went to Kampung Pengantin. I started to relax a bit, but was suddenly getting kind of nervous. I’m about to get married in a few hours. Finally it hit me. For the past few months I’ve been fussing about the wedding but I didn’t give a thought about becoming a wife. And there I stood, suddenly realising that my life was going to change. Becoming a wife meant responsibilities, raising a family… I didn’t think of all that. All I thought about was having a perfect wedding. I suddenly became humbled.

Alhamdulillah… Nikah went smoothly. Just one lafaz. I cried after. My mom cried. My friends cried. Ian didn’t cry :P.

All the receptions went well. I’m so blessed to have family members and friends who took the time and effort, despite the heat and fatigue, helped out to make my wedding a success. There were flaws here and there, but I didn’t care anymore. I was just having soo much fun being the King and Queen of the day. Cameras flashing, families getting together, laughing and having a good time.

To those that I still haven’t thanked… THANK YOU!! THANK YOU SOO VERY MUCH! And I’m sorry I turned into a bridezilla and all on ya! Promise not to do it again??! Heheh.

More pics from the wedding...

It’s been 10 months since the wedding. I'm glad i got conned into it. Although it feels the same between Ian and I, nothing different between us, still argue over the same things, still did the same activities, still hang out with the same group of people but still... the experience is soo much... fun?